Stir The Pot

Why do we have to be so tactful all the time?

Now that's a solid question to start off this post - Tact: The human damper mechanism designed to shield our peers/co-earthlings from unneeded emotional trauma or intellectual interruptions.

Tact is only a part of what I actually want to touch upon in this post. I actually admire tactless people - only a little bit though...there are obviously times where tact is a must (if you don't know someone, tact is important) - I admire them because they're not scared to say what's on their mind. Unfortunately, people without tact can often say things that get under our skin...woops! I've stumbled onto my point already.

Revised question: Why do we take things personally when accusations or facts about people/situations are brought up by our friends?

We all deal with accusations/perceived personal attacks differently. We all have our own defense mechanisms. Sadly, a lot of issues never get dealt with because people are afraid to bring them up, for fear of what the other person is going to think/say about what you bring up! Like "I don't want to bring this up because I don't want you to bring up something related that will hurt me"... or "I shouldn't bring this up because I might jeopardize the relationship that I have with this person".

I think the solution to all this mess is for us all to stop taking everything so damned personally. I know where I stand with most people that I know. It's generally very easy to tell if I am or am not close to someone. There are obviously degrees of closeness, but I can usually tell if someone likes me or if they think I'm a pain in the ass. Conversely, I usually emote pretty solid body language that demonstrates my liking/disliking of someone.

This leads to one sentence: "If you like someone and they like you, then stop being so damned tactful all the time."

That's right folks, if we're friends, we should just tell each other what's on our minds. If there are repercussions, and I take something personally (against my own advice), then it's better that it was said anyways because I now have more knowledge about that relationship, and about how that person thinks. I probably wouldn't jump to conclusions and think "oooh, this person is getting under my skin, which means he doesn't value our relationship as much as I do." Instead, I would think "Wow, this person really has no problems saying what he/she thinks to me...He/she must feel that they're comfortable enough with me to say what's on their mind."

So no more hiding your true feelings/thoughts! Don't be afraid to stir the pot if something's on your mind, and don't forget to keep sight of the positives in every situation. Listen to Rob... :)

Normal

What is the definition of normal?
Am I normal, or are you?
And if you're normal, and I'm clearly not like you, what does that make me?
Am I weird?
Okay, I'm weird.
Let Rob = weird for the sake of argument.
So if I'm weird, who's to say that my weirdness is not normal?
Who is given the power to define normalcy?
Maybe we're all weird.
Or maybe we're all normal!
Oh wait! I know!
It's our individual weirdnesses that make us all normal!!
We're all normal, everyday, run of the mill people because we're all weird!
So if you're trying to fit in, and be normal...the BE WEIRD!!
It's much easier to be weird than it is to be normal.
Don't be creepy though, because...nevermind...that's another post.

No nefarious substances were consumed during the writing of this post.